Posts tagged Life

I love the movies Before Sunset and Before Sunrise as my previous posts may have conveyed. There’s this quote from the movie that says, “But isn’t everything we do in life a way to be loved a little more?”

I guess most of the things we choose to do is for the attempt to be loved, by ourselves, by our families, by our friends and by the one. J

But what if we find someone we love and no matter how hard we try, he/she won’t love us back/yet? For reasons we may or may not understand, for reasons we may or may not accept, people friendzone each other. It’s life.

I am no love expert, but for me, these are the things to do when you are friendzoned:

a. Be brave enough to accept that she/he just doesn’t love you.

b. Treat the other person as she/he is due. Sometimes, we exaggerate our heartaches that we believe the one who doesn’t love us back wronged us, so we make others feel that they were wrong. Bitter statements. Awkward pang-iignore.

We should grow up and know that she only has one life to live, it’s her duty to herself to know people beyond skin deep and scrutinize who is the best person for her.

c. You have one life to live too, get over it and be kind.

A.R. (codename) thinks I’m an optimist and claims he is a pessimist. And we would often talk about what made as who we are and what are the fringe benefits (or the lack of them) with us having these opposite mindsets. It’s true that what happens inside of us matters more than what happens outside. It defines the level of love and hatred, hope and despair, happiness and unhappiness.

I and AR have an ocean of difference because of how we see the world. He says, oftentimes, he sees the glass half-empty and I see it half-full. Most people would ask, “Why not see it half full” and he might answer, “I am not built that way”.

To know that and to accept that, to understand that people differ in perception, thus, truth differs for everyone, is one of the most beautiful things I discovered in life.

It opens me to the possibilities of understanding and acceptance and well, unconditional love.  

Some people are settling down, some people are settling and some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies.” Sex & the City

My younger self was all about butterflies. My grown-up self is seeking for more reliability and pragmatism. And you know what, I am going back to my butterflies, thank you very much. 

You lose dignity by offering more and accepting less.

You lose respect by offering less and accepting more.

In life and love, it is better to give AND receive. ♥

I wish you have done everything for me

Because I could have forgotten the world

And have done everything for you

Cause love is measured and counted

What you give

You end up taking back

I don’t want to judge myself (further more, act) based one parcel of of my whole being, thus, these past days I uttered two phrases to show how deliberately stuck-up I am on keeping things separate:

After eating a yummy meal cooked by my cousin, I said, “My stomach is happier than I am.” 

After being  unintentionally cold to someone, I proclaimed, “My heart is more snobbish than I am right now.”

I think this is part of growing up, when one’s state of mind is no longer dependent with the outside forces you put in (your stomach or heart or brain) and not too reliant on emotions. 

I can feel myself growing-up in substance (and in age). And if I really am growing-up, may I find myself more principled as I do. 

And yes, even if I keep them separate from the “self”, I’ll always be accountable for both my heart and my stomach.

Dear self, be kind to your heart and to others… and don’t eat excessively.